NERO here- don't let me float away anybody

[RosaLinda]

I'm having an okay night Nero thanks. I think your friend's psychiatrist gave her good advice to "think long and hard before walking out on what you have/had - if you have nothing wonderful to be rushing out to." A person should think long and hard before walking out on what he has even if he or she DOES have something better to go to. My H says he knows a bunch of people who got divorced and remarried, and none were really happier the second time. Yet he's thinking of divorcing me and going where? Not to anyone or anything better, that's for sure. 

How has your H been acting since you've been down there? Has he ever mentioned D to you? Where would YOU like to live? You don't sound really happy in NJ. Do you think guilt about your mom keeps you there? Would you be happy in FL if not for the OW? Because maybe all of your assumptions are not correct Nero. Like you said, "how to know the truth without my own personal lie detector -huhj? that's the real question..."

I fear if/when we decide to reconcile with our Hs, there will be a lot of hurtful things we will have to be willing to put behind us and forgive, to be able to trust again. 

Im' glad yuy're floating detachedly Nero!