I was thinking that it was your W that had said in past months that she needed to see one but was on a waiting list, or trying to get the assistance for one.

If she doesn't believe she needs individual counseling, i don't see how you could force her......and it be beneficial for her. You were trying to get her help. But you can hold out for marriage counseling. I don"t believe it will survive without it.

I have never been to Retrouville, but based on what I have read, I would encould you to present it to your W. If she agrees to go with you, that will be a good sign. But if she makes up excuses, not so good.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!