So my wife tells me today she's ready...............for the divorce.
I was in the process of getting a bigger place so my son could come live with me, but today he told me he decided to just stay with my W.
Double ouch.
The financial implications hit me today, im so overwhelmed now, i'm going to lose 85% of my business with the divorce. (since I basically work for my wife's family).
I'm just stunned as to my next steps, I couldn't even get up to work today. Seems the whole world just collapsed on me. I'm not sure if I should go dark (would that be abandoning the kids?), my wifes romance is long distance so its like a honeymoon every month when she flies to see him. And he's a Dr. so a much better provider I guess. (ouch three). They were high school sweethearts 25+ years ago. They reconnected on facebook.
I have a few options, none I like, I can go live with a brother in Washington, go live with a brother in Utah, or attempt to stay here and try to build a construction co. back up in a terrible economy. With the debt im facing, i'd need to make at least 3k a month to cover expenses, much less gas the truck, feed myself, and keep roof over my head. My credit is excellent but my debt ratio is blown up.
I cant stop shaking at the overwhelming tasks ahead. My wife is going in today for a cervical cancer, breast lumps check on top of it, originally she asked me to drive her, but told me she'd call me instead. (ouch 4). I already know its bad, but how bad, and now im not in a position to be supportive like I was supposed to be last week when she asked me.
Her dr. friend also has a rare blood cancer, and it gives them a new connection.
Guess im just looking for advice of whether I should move out of town and be away from my kids, they've basically got me thru the first 3 months and I cant stand being away from them for even a minute. OR, do I just move on with life, and pray it works out with my kids?
