First things first- Its not going to go back to the way it was. This will not be quick.
I immediately put my "pro team" together. I called a therapist for MYSELF to get a appt as soon as possible. If you can find a therapist from a center that may have psych's on staff- just in case- even better.
DO NOT PUSH FOR MARRIAGE COUNSELING! If SHE suggests it find someone pro-marriage. A DB coach may be better for you to identify first steps.
Focus on being the best Dad in the world. Your kids will need it. Eat healthy and rest as much as possible - you will need to be healthy.
You will see some very similar situations on here. Mine included. look at them if poss because many have taken wrong directions and have learned from their mistakes. Perhaps you will be able gain some wisdom- before your faced with it.
You will also make friends here- They are more valuable then gold.
I will leave you with the very first piece of advice given to me when I joined......
"Your wife has given you a gift- the gift of time"
Be strong and keep posting- we will be watching
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
