I have been doing fine this week, considering I came home to an empty house, h left last Sat while I was out of town. REally been holding up well.
HOWEVER, right now I need to vent.....H and I have been talking each day this week, mostly about kids and telling our s this week-end. I've made the calls to s to ask him to come home for the week-end, so we could catch up. At first s said he couldn't, then seemed to realize the seriousness and at the last minute changed his plans. S called me an hour ago and said he would be home tonight at 6pm rather than Sat...like he previously had thought. H and I had planned he come here Sat too, so we could let s know of our separation, etc. Ok....not the real RANT....
I left a message at h's office for him to call me. H just called, I gave him the scoup, H breathed a heavy sigh....said he didn't like s "jerking" the plans around, but knew that s didn't realize what he was coming home to. He also said maybe I should talk to s and he would come here tomorrow and have a quality discussion with s. I was very quiet.....I thought that was a Shi!!y idea. (didn't say so).. Then I said, well, I had plans for tonight that I just cancelled, but he had to decide what he should do. Quiet again on the phone...then I said "well I have an opinion about this, would you like to hear it?" H said "yes, of course".....I said "Well we asked s to come home, he changed his plans for the week-end on our request and now he is coming. I also changed my plans for tonight....so I think it would be best if you were here too." Long pause.....(sh!t, he's got plans!) Then he kind of cut me off, cuz I started to repeat myself (ya, I know I shouldn't have)...then h said "OK....that's what I'll do." Then I asked about me fixing dinner, etc. H said that would be fine. Man....he is really pi$$ing me off....he moves out, and I get to do all the dirty work with the kids! UGH!!
Well, now I've got about 2-3 hours to get my act together...plan a meal....and de-escalate. I hate this situation I'm in....as we all do, I know.
Thanks for hanging in there and reading this....I just needed to let it fly!
