" I know H means well he told me this morning to go down to the family services and apply for assistants to help me out with grocery"
Seriously? Your H isn't doing it because he cares about you or means well. He's doing it to alleviate his guilt. If he really meant well he wouldn't be texting the OW in front of you. Plus it sounds like he's trying to do it so that he doesn't have to give you any money.
Have you discussed the monetary issue with him? Time to get a L.
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