Glad you;'re not obsessing Sounds like you're getting stronger day by day and I bet you're feeling a lot better now less stressed That's one good thing about 180, once you start working on yourself you do feel less stressed about what your WAS is up to It will never totally go away, you are always going to wonder what they are up to, but I've learnt to push it right down to my big toe, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Your right trying, it doesn't go away. I'm finding that even though your feelings subside for a bit it doesn't last. And when they show up again it's like when and how will all this end. What will be the final outcome when all is said and done. It's a an ugly process that you are forced to live and with. Even with GAL, PMV you still have to go through the process. I'm realizing as I read through these threads that most all have things in common but, they all have thier own set of circumstances. I think the most difficult thing is trying to seperate what you dont know from what you do know. In my sitch, I cannot help but to wonder if things would be easier if her and I were speaking. This is the way I think that one can actually find where things really are. I know my WAS does care but to not talk with me for almost 3 months now? It's said that if you are talking with your S and they show hatred towards you that in reality they actually still have love for you. So trying to figure out what it means to have your S care about you but not speak with you means something but what? No, I'm not obsessing here. Just trying to find answers so that eventually you can react appropiatly if or when that time actually comes. Knowledge is power, power is knowledge. For some reason this makes sense to me in order to deal with your sitch. Or Am I wrong?
You'll never be able to start to understand the WAS. It would be nice if we could, it'll make life a whole lot simpler! I was cheesed off today because I had to ring him and he didn't answer his phone!! He leaves his phone in his car whilst he's working and will probably ring me back at 11pm! All I can say is thank goodness it wasn't a real emergency! I an so cross with him at the moment. I went into town and went to chat with a friend hoping she would make me feel better, but I'm back home now and p'd off!!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Calm down Trying...lol...You know by now what to expect and not expect I presume. I guess you are right about WAS being confused. At least many of them. My WAS well, who knows. I know she is spending a great deal of time online which she never did. (not obsessing here) Nobody can spend all day online like that unless your on a dating site desperately seeking someone. Thats just being realistic in my mind. But I realize I shouldn't be guessing or thinking like that. However, if true it would hurt me even more. Anyway's GAL, PMV is something I keep striving for as each day passes.
Calm down Trying...lol...You know by now what to expect and not expect I presume. I guess you are right about WAS being confused. At least many of them. My WAS well, who knows. I know she is spending a great deal of time online which she never did. (not obsessing here) Nobody can spend all day online like that unless your on a dating site desperately seeking someone. Thats just being realistic in my mind. But I realize I shouldn't be guessing or thinking like that. However, if true it would hurt me even more. Anyway's GAL, PMV is something I keep striving for as each day passes.
ok I'm calm, lol. I suffer from depression and anxiety and this is making me both depressed and anxious. I know you say you're not be obsessed, but you are! lol. Who care what she's doing online! for all you know she may be on another forum doing exactly what you're doing on here. I used to get paranoid when I was posting in case my H was reading it, but I don't anymore because I think who cares! lol. This is from someone who's stressing because he's not answered my call! It's ok to think she may have an OM because it will prepare you in case she has, but have it at the back of your mind. Remember you've got a long long way to go, it's baby steps all the way! Forget about what she's doing and what she's up to and why she's spending more time on the internet and why she's doing this and why is she doing that! It's just not healthy. Carry on being as attractive as you can, you never know when she might turn up. Go on a diet, go to the gym, get a tan, buy some new clothes. Always look smart because you never know what's around the corner. I know my H doesn't live far, but I always look nice just in case he pops round. He may think hmmmm why is she all glammed up, but that's what keeps them wondering. Make 180 fun! make them think what you're up to and GAL! Work on yourself, be the Husband that your wife will want to come back to. She doesn't want to come back to someone who mopes around all day, but someone who gets on with life. BTW, I do know what to expect by now and I know he's going to ring me about 11pm! That's what I'm annoyed about. I've got water coming into my conservatory and 11pm is no good to me! He's always said he'll come round to sort it out as he knows we've got problems with our conservatory roof. This is why I hardly ever ring him, as he never answers his phone and does my head in! lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
All very good points....note to me, straighten up!!!!
Well said I hope the 2x4 didn't hurt you that much Feel free to hit me back if I need it
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Ha! I need a good swat with a 2 x 4 I notice...I have to stop trying to make sense of what S is doing or has done. I know this for a fact....And no, I wouldn't dream of hitting back....not unless one deserved it of course..hehe
Well I think I deserve one today, I'm hitting myself now, lol. I shouldn't have got in touch with him!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Sounds like you're getting stronger day by day and I bet you're feeling a lot better now