My wife and I had a talk last night. She tells me that the relationship with the OM is now limited. I did tell her that the ongoing relationship with this OM would distract from ours.
I did question weather or not this OM would actualy leave is current wife should my wife and I divorce thereby freeing her for him. She did seem confident that he would but there was doubt in her mind. I told her my biggest fear (other than loosing her) is that we would separate and this OM would then say "i cannot leave my wife", breaking my wifes heart. I told her that if that did happen I would and always be here for here. Hope this does give her the idea that if she tries and it does not work she will have someone to fall back on. Maybe I should not have said this but it's how I feel. She can do nothing that would stop me from loving here until the day I die. Think this may have already been proven by the fact that we are still together after the affair.
I think she still has strong feelings for me but may be confused as to what she wants and needs. I am re-inventing myself and the way I treat my wife after the past months in which I have failed her emotionaly. She has told me that she sees the difference but hopes its not just a temporary phase. I told her that what I am doing is honest and sincere and makes me feel better and closer to her too.
At this point we are working to re-build our trust and love for each other. I don't know how much time she is going to give this but am trying to move my improvements slowly and not to rush things (a difficult task).
