My W opened a page on "Caring Bridge" to keep everyone updated on her status. I posted a message of encouragement to her and was reading through the other posts and found this one from MIL:
"Have everything set up here to be taken care of while I am with you after the surgery. Hope everything goes as scheduled. Talked to (D18) and we have agreed that between me, her, (D16) and (S10) we can handle whatever comes up next week so you can concentrate on your recovery."
Now I've talked about this much earlier in my thread, but probably not in quite a while- I am the kind of person who is always there to help others. If you have a problem with your car, or need help with something on your house, or just want to talk to someone I am "that" guy. I've done tons of volunteer work, mostly with Hearts and Hammers and Habitat for Humanity. I live 5 minutes from W. I've told her several times I would be happy to help her out, whether it's laundry, grocery shopping, whatever. Just 2 days ago I noticed her lawn was looking pretty shabby and asked her if she wanted me to take care of it while she's sick (she said no, she wanted D18 to do it). I have done TONS of things for MIL over the years. It just blows my mind that not only W, but apparently MIL now too want me so utterly and completely out of their lives, LOL! I just want to shake them and say "for crying out loud, I'm just offering to help, that's all!!!" I guess they think accepting help is like making a commitment or something. They both know that I have NEVER asked for anything in return because I consider volunteer work to be a higher calling than that. Ugh! It's just really frustrating.
Originally Posted By: lost_hope
Hi AS. Just read your story in this thread and I'm sorry to hear about your W's cancer diagnosis and well as confirmation of OM.
