It's in mid August and knowing us two anything could happen between now and then.
That's only true if you don't have boundaries and don't abide by them.
Anything might happen on her side but you could, and I say could because it will take some doing, be right where you plan to be.
You said earlier you didn't like to think about values, because that was difficult.
So what are your boundaries? How will you express them to W? You put in the "difficult" work now and this gets so much easier. You'll no longer have to worry about every little interaction and what your response should be.
As Sandi said, you did tell your W what you would want to see from her to start working on your M. Hold that line.
See how easy that is.
That does make it look easy.
I'm going to need quite a bit of help with the whole boundary thing, I'm struggling to get my head around it unless it's put right in front of me.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14