About a week ago I found out my husband has an affair with a lady of 75.My husband and I are 64 and have been married for 41 years.We have 2 children and 2 grandchildren. It is a long story but I really dont want to lose him and he was my friend as well as husband. This woman lives in America,we are in Europe but they met here last year when she visited and came to our house as a guest.She abused my hospitality.I am sure the pressure on him comes from her as she lost her husband this year and my husband helped her though his death via skype,late evenings when I had gone to bed. When I found out,through a stupid email to him from her, he told me he will never give her up but he doesnt want to lose me either. This person is now over here again on holiday and she seems to have thought my husband would move in with her when I found out.Not so. He still is at home with me and visits her once a week for a day / night visit. I think she must be really mad at him for this ,not that it is any comfort. I am trying to keep calm and pleasant and not to ask any questions . He seems quite exhausted and is always falling asleep on the sofa ! I bet he isnt allowed to do that when they are together. She planned to buy a flat here and leave USA and her children and grandchildren and friends to be here. She is now pressurising my husband to decide what he wants so she can go ahead with her plans.He told me he doesnt think it a good idea at her age to leave her home and country,and says he told her that,also asking her if she would be prepared to spend years in an old people's home here if she needed care. At least he seems to think ahead for her.I wish he would for us as wel
