I was surprised how quickly D11 adapted to what was going on, she quickly developed a maturity which I didn’t know she had. If she asks questions now I will answer honestly, I have given up trying to cover for W. If D11 ask W a question she gets sugar coated answers or lies.
For example D11 asked W how this all came about in the beginning and W told her that she made a mistake some years ago and Dad won’t let her forget it. I’ve has some chats with D11 (cos W is always out) and one of the things she said to me was “when I grow up I won’t make the same mistake as Mom”.
D11 has had sex education taught at school, (they teach it earlier these days) so she knows the mechanics of what sex is about and she has asked me if I thought W has “done it” with her friend so I answered honestly. In our case D11 understands Mom is moving on with her life without me
Anyway the point I wanted to make is if the kids are old enough to ask question they are old enough to get answers (spare any gory details).
