[quoteWhat is you idea of her reaching out to you? What would be the goal? I hope LTH will come back and help me explain the terrible truth about a WAW. She lays it out there, hoping you will start dealing out of a realistic mindset who is no longer blinded by the ways of the WAW'S.][/quote]
Listen up T, your W most likely isn't playing games with you - not 100% anyway but I am almost positive she hasn't made up her mind about what she wants, she just knows she doesn't want you walking away until SHE decides what SHE wants.
Don't get discouraged but don't let this latest conversation with her make you think things will definitely be okay or that she is ready to actually work on things. I would text OM on the way to/from MC and I was truly heartbroken when my H would want to leave. However, as soon as I knew I had him "back", I would start to feel confused again about what I wanted and what was actually right.
Also, even though I hated the idea of hurting my children, they were not enough to make stop doing what I needed to do to "save" myself.
Your W definitely sounds like she has a LOT of growing up to do, however, I also feel like she is confused - afraid to take you back and end up in the same place but afraid to let you go because she isn't sure she wants to. That's where I was for 3 years.
Her text about you not fighting for her was, as Sandi2 said, to gauge your reaction. I am sorry, I know you don't want to believe it, but it isn't just because she thinks you didn't fight for her. It is for her benefit and to keep you on her string. I know this, I did this. Part of me knew what I was doing but I didn't completely acknowledge/understand the whole thing until I began DBing. She is playing you, not just to play you but so she doesn't lose you until she makes a decision one way or the other. What made mine?
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
