What you said mmade me feel soooo good inside , Thanks for your prayers and kind words regarding the kids. Yes, both know that our marriage is somewhat shaky, they were around las tsummer and we talked with them, they felt the tension and got parts of H's temper and saw some of my pain....so UNFORTUNATELY they know plenty. Thanksgiving and X-mas went realy well tho, we were a family and spent tons of time together without any tension, we all got along quite well. So, I think they have been hoping we would work it all out w/o them around...so this may part a partial shock. They're great kids, with faith and good heads about things. I just know they want their family back as a happy unit. I pray alot about them and their safe-keeping.