Emotional Connection and Attraction

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Just thinking out loud....

Should I tell her I forgive her? (or some form of this)

I know I'm throwing darts here, but ONE of the possible reasons W has put up this wall could be a result of the discussion of six weeks ago when I got text from OMW. When I shamed her about her A.

We had a great discussion afterward (two days later), but maybe she's holding on to what I said during the emotional convo right after receiving the text.

Maybe she thinks I'll never let it go. Maybe her guilt is contributing to this?

I've told her a few times in the past that "I want to move forward" etc, and my actions certainly go along with that...

But I think I've only said "I forgive you" once and that was during MC when I was kind of prompted to.

I know you guys may say "well, do you actually forgive her?"

The first answer that comes to my mind is "I think so" "I want to".

But then hypocritically I'm hesitant because it feels like I'm doing all the work or making it too easy on her...especially lately...but then I think about that negative cycle Accuray was talking about and that someone has to pay it forward.

I think I'm making this sound a little academic, but you guys usually can articulate it better than I.

Thoughts?

As a WAW who had an A (more involved that your W's but I think it's the same), I will tell you that it isn't what you say at all - it is how you act and what you say. She is most likely thinking that you will never let it go and no matter what you say, it won't change what she thinks. Your future behavior will change what she thinks.