Run and hide your crazy

[AJM]

Yeah, it seems crazy. But really, is it that he's crazy or is it situational? i.e. paranoia, low self-esteem, etc? As opposed to "odd", right?

The difference between crazy and eccentric is what? Money right? If you have money, you're eccentric. If you don't, you're crazy. That's how it seems to work

I work with a lady who's husband seriously thought he was the second coming of Christ. He believed it. He now denies it all these years later. Situational? I think so.

Stress is self-induced in my opinion. The mind is a powerful thing though, and it will not let you go happily along when your integrity is out of whack. I.e. your beliefs and actions are out of alignment.

Your H sounds more desperate than actually crazy, but only a shrink can evaluate that accurately. And even then it's a subjective analysis based on research.

It's been my experience that people under extreme stress for long periods tend to exhibit similar traits to narcissism, paranoia, cognitive dissonance and other "crazy" like symptoms.

He could be, but it doesn't sound like's certifiable. Sounds like he's a selfish jerk that wants to take short-cuts and the world owes him something because of all his wonderfulness he exudes.

I had a neighbor like that. Left his W of 23 years, three kids, and house so he could live the single life and make all kinds of money. He's still alone, not so crazy any longer, and the FBI investigation into his money practices is almost over. At the time, he was nuttier than squirrel poop.

And crazy people don't know right from wrong. I suspect your H does, hence the increase in guilt and stress.

Even if he is not, you're not obligated to endure his selfishness and being a jerk to you. Nobody does. You can find a way to not allow him to be a jerk to you and treat you better or you can leave. Either way, you need to understand your limits and what you're willing to put up with and not. And you need to enforce those boundaries once you've figured it out.

Just my thoughts,

AJ