Well, I think you did a pretty good job just going with the flow..which is all you can really do for now. For the time being, you just have to work through the logistics of the move, be as pleasant as you can, keep validating and agreeing that "maybe this is for the best".. and allow him to "get himself unstuck from all the thick mud".. or whatever he's convinced himself he has to do...LOL When they need to "find themselves", you just have to let them do it, and while they're doing it, make sure you're not too accessible.. ..Because once he leaves, one of the things that works to your favor is whether or not he will miss you. If he does, you'll be surprised at how quick "he finds himself"..and when you combine that with the other things we talk about..BEING HAPPY with things as they are, No pressuring or pursuing him once he's gone, using the time apart to improve your own life and do the things you always wanted to do.., be mysterious, don't always pick up the calls when they inevitably start to come..don't ask him what he's been up to..just let him be and BE PATIENT, it could be awhile. Just make sure you don't act in a manner that makes him think, you're waiting around...
I'm in the NW suburbs, always available for mini DB get togethers..as long as there is wine involved..LOL
..Because once he leaves, one of the things that works to your favor is whether or not he will miss you. If he does, you'll be surprised at how quick "he finds himself"..and when you combine that with the other things we talk about..BEING HAPPY with things as they are, No pressuring or pursuing him once he's gone, using the time apart to improve your own life and do the things you always wanted to do.., be mysterious, don't always pick up the calls when they inevitably start to come..don't ask him what he's been up to..just let him be and BE PATIENT, it could be awhile. Just make sure you don't act in a manner that makes him think, you're waiting around... 
