Specifically to your question, "I need to know how or if I should attempt to reconnect."

DO NOT ATTEMPT TO RECONNECT!

She must come to you on her own. The only way for that to happen is for her to chose to come back.

Do the 180 (opposite) of reconnecting. You must disconnect from her, eg. DETACH!

Trust DR and Sandi's 37 rules.

BKS

M46 W45 T12 M10 S9 D4
BD 2/13
Divorced 5/14