Hey..Mooka..I guess I don't really need to add my 2 cents in, as I agree totatly with Wiley...BEEN THERE...DONE THAT.. LEt him have the space..no ultimatums..if he has a r while gone, then you will have to decide if you are going to ride it out and believe that in the end your love for each other might be worth it all..in the meantime, you move forward with your life...my h R with ff ended just afer he moved, and he has not had anyone else..of course over the past year I wondered if there was someone new..but I kept moving on..and we stayed friends..I think my forgiveness for h happened along time ago..as I knew that this was the man I had spent a good many years of my life, built a home, and had 2 great kids toghether, so despite what happened, I had to forgive hima nd myself in order to move on..and up until 2 weeks ago, I thought it was going to be on my own.
You are doing great..it is not easy many days..but keep going..
As far as your kids..our kids are 21 and 24..college, but still at home...I NEVER said anything mean about their Dad..I have felt hurt, angry many times, but never, never let them hear that come from your lips...my dd said she knew she would be ok no matter what we did, as she remembers growing up being loved by both, and that through all this we have remained friends..so please...don't say anything you might ever regret. I also believe, and not to pat myself on the back,that because they have lived with me that they have seen me become stronger because of it..and in turn have been ok as to what the outcome might have been..
So hang in there..the rides are about to begin.. Hey you , Wiley and me are all from Ill..I am about 60 miles from Chicago...
