I agree, your H should not be texting the OW in front of you As for the Church stuff, I think that's up to you at the end of the day. I've found a lovely Church with lovely supportive friends in it that will be with me for life and do not judge me at all. They're even nice to my H when he comes down for a social visit and that's how it should be I have a friend who stopped going to Church because they were telling her what to do. They were supposedly Christians, but they were the ones telling me that I'm better off without him and believing in D. Go figure that one! They even accused my H of having an affair with one of our mutual friends! I can assure you and them that he wasn't! How do I know this stuff? Because they have a coffee shop that I've been to and believe me their stuff is wayyyyyy over the top! They didn't believe in yoga and they thought I shouldn't believe in horoscopes. I told them I didn't really believe in it, It's just a bit of fun! They told my friend that she wasn't allowed to watch soaps on tv as they were evil and she was possessed because she was on anti-depressants!!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
As for the Church stuff, I think that's up to you at the end of the day. I've found a lovely Church with lovely supportive friends in it that will be with me for life and do not judge me at all. They're even nice to my H when he comes down for a social visit and that's how it should be 
