I have been on both sides now and I understand completely where you are coming from and my heart goes out to you. I wanted and needed my space because my first husband kept me on a leash. I guess when we did separate, I have to admit I did act like I was a teenager. However, I was not looking for another man but the more he accused me of it, I wanted to just to piss him off.
Would your husband giving you space but occasionally saying he loved you have done any good?
To be honest, I did not want to hear those words from him because he had his chance and he blew it.
Never believe it's too late. My second husband told me when he left it was over and it was too late. At first, I did to him what my first husband did to me, pursued, called and text him all the time and I pushed him farther away. He told me there was no hope for us, that he did not love me and for me to leave him alone. This went on for five months. He was already involved with someone else. I confronted him about that and he lied. Then one day I woke up and said no more, I want to find happiness again. I did not text or call him. When he called me, I would let it go straight to voice mail because if it was important, he would leave a message. He would text me and I did not respond right away. I always ended the conversation. When I did see him, I was polite and looked hot. He noticed. Once I stopped pursing him and gave him his space, he started to come back around. We were separated for seven months and we have been back together a year and half. He told me he was so glad that I did not give up hope for us.
We still have our ups and downs but we try to work thru them together as a couple. There are times I wished we had gone our separate ways. When we got back together, he helped me with our D and the house work. Now, he does absolutely nothing. And I am lost what to do with that.
