Hi Mooka,

Well, like the All-Star you are, you rebounded quite nicely..

I would probably agree with your C and just let the sitch breath for awhile, let things settle, be calm, NO PRESSURE, fill up your life, make sure the kids realize that its not the end of the world, things like this happen, you and H will be fine in the end..

And then stick to that list of goals you set, and continue to make yourself into the W that is awfully difficult for him to stay away from.. because when pressed into duty, you can be HAPPY, STRONG, SEXY, CONFIDENT, INDEPENDANT, CARING, NON PRESSURING, WILLING TO GIVE SPACE, and perfectly capable of handling this whole situation in a manner that is conducive to saving your M.

I can sense the PRESSURE has been lifted, your H is feeling comfortable and at ease because he senses you ARE SEEING THINGS THROUGH HIS EYES and you are supporting his decision even if it doesn't feel right to you.

If there is such a thing as a LOVE LANGUAGE, I'm not sure there are any more effective than the one you are now speaking..

Take care, enjoy our lovely Chicago weather...LOL