Not sure where to start

[KarenR]

At some point you two are going to have to come to some agreement and be able to communicate in a way that is best for your kids. You want to be sure you haven't left any stone unturned, before you make the most important decision of your life, which is to split up your family...I suggest you talk to a DB coach as soon as possible, so that you when you are interacting with her, you are doing so in a manner that could bring her closer, not push her any further away. You will feel supported every step of the way and will be given a very direct plan on the best way to go forward. Take good care.