First of all, I don't see you being weak at all! A weak person would have given up long ago. Yes, you have felt much pain and sadness but you have endured! That requires a true strength.
Yes, our sitch's are quite different. The whole A really has broken my heart like nothing else. I still wonder how it could ever fully heal. But then I am gently reminded not to get ahead of myself
In a way, your H's drinking buddy is like an OW. He chose to spend time with him over you, values his opinion so much, and bends over backward to please him. Yet, it seems your H is learning that YOU are capable of being that best friend, and can fulfill his needs.
I keep trying to stay on that high road rH, but it is bumpy, rocky, and not a pleasant trip at times. But I think in the end, no matter what, it will be well worth it.
Trying to focus on the positives, and there are many!
Are you sure you couldn't make it out here to the east coast?
Thanks for always checking up on me, and for your continued support
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
