Am I ready for this?

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I hope so rH. I'm playing in the pool with the boys thinking about how these are the best days of our lives. How can you not see that? The boys are their happiest with the two of us together. That has to register.

Hi M man~

I understand how you are feeling. I wonder the same thing all the time. H never left here, but spent so much time away mentally and emotionally, it was often difficult to be around him. I truly got to see the shell of a person he had become.

I, like rH and many others, felt I was "done" quite a few times. I was ready to part ways back in January when I thought I couldn't take this one minute longer.

He and I had a big talk - some good things came from it, some not so good things too- but I found the strength to dig in some more.

These are the best years with our children, you are so very right. And our MLCers may see it or not. But WE see it. We can't begin to know their logic, but we can live in the moment and enjoy every last minute with our kids.

I bet a part of your wife does realize this, but she is conflicted in many ways.

I like what rH said about picturing her H with someone else at a future wedding.

I would picture holidays and special occasions apart from my children, celebrating everything as a shattered family. That helped me to dig in deeper for patience.

uRworthy has given me some wonderful advice on my thread that you may be able to apply to your sitch as well.

Hang in there