How come I can be on a roll and then lose it!!! Wiley, you were right and have set me straight after my emotional faulter!
I spoke with my C yesterday, too. She gave me more DBing tips, ideas to work with. Same general advice, to be calm, back off, fill up my life.....she helped me analyze WHY I put the pressure on H....cuz of my vunerability since the week-end discussions....close to the surface. Yes, I have regrets about the last few interactions.
Last night, H came home....wanted to talk things through...we actually did have a good talk about it all. I said I would not stand in his way and needed time for me too, to sort things out. He said he understood my way of processing, and wanted our future discussions to be productive and honest. He said he understood my thoughts on boundaries. No more other talk about that. I just listened, nodded, and said we needed to figure out how to tell our kids. That I wanted them to know we were on the same page, so they would see that we both agreed to this arrangement, that it may help us.
Gotta go to the train. I'll finish this a little later!
Sorry.
Cindy, thanks for the feedback too. I've been reading up on some of your sitch too.
