If you really want to know how bad I messed up, I will tell you. It has bothered me that her mother and family have ghosted me as well. Her mother and I had a great relationship, and I treated her really well and often was there for her when her kids werent. So I sent her a private message basically saying that I was disappointed that she hasnt contacted me in months.
I also messed up saying that I wasnt stupid and knew that things with OM were going on.
Well...as you can guess, it didnt stay private and she told my W. At that point, I was given the choice of her leaving...or me. I am doing the unselfish thing for my SS and leaving so he can stay in a stable home environment. Afterall, had I not done this and remained a ghost in the house...I wouldnt be in the sitch anyway.
Me-45,W-36 M-12 yrs, T-15 years SS- 16 Nov 2003 Initial B date, 2-3 others since EA/PA OM 2003-2004 Reconciled 2004 May 2013 Final BD, W completely detaches W files D June 2013 I am moving out 26 July 2013
