2 years into our Marriage W and I were in couples counselling, it was W’s idea as I wasn’t shaping into the man she wanted me to be, she wanted me to be a bit more like her Dad and her and brother. In the counselling it turned out I was ok and the spotlight focused on W’s behaviour, she stopped counselling after a few sessions and wouldn’t hear of it again. At the time she said any problems in the marriage we can sort out together. Also as far as counselling goes W doesn’t believe she is doing anything wrong, all the blame lies with me and she has given up on me now so no more counselling.
I’m not sure about W being crazy or MLC but she’s doing things that seem crazy to others but not her. Actually not a lot of family and friends know what is going on, I had the burden of keeping things quiet and to some extend playing the devoted husband even though I was being crushed inside. Sometimes I want to scream to everyone that knows us what is going on but too be honest not many of them would care and it wouldn’t change much.
Hi Rock,
How do you cope with the situation when your W is on holiday with OM, I mean how do you block out the mental images, Actually I’m already dealing (not coping) with it as W has her overnight liaisons. But school holidays start at the weekend, D11 is going camping with girl guides and W will be taking a weekend break in London with her OM. I know we are done but you can’t just switch off 20 years of feelings overnight. (sad but true).
