The one thing I did do right in all that mess was to validate and acknowledge her feelings about how this happened and why when she's tried to express them.
I told her I fully understand how she feels and why she'd feel that way.
And I did that not as any kind of tactic or trick. I've done a lot of soul searching and I know why we're where we're at, at least in respect to how I treated her as a W. I can really see how hurt she's been, and still is, and see that she's not enjoying this, or doing things just to be cruel.
I read somewhere on here about looking at it like that W is gone and that M is gone no matter what, because neither of us would, or should, want it back the way it was.
