It really is a long haul...thread #4

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First let me start off by saying thank you to all my friends here. Your continued posts to my thread have been very encouraging.

Now time for a much needed update. I'm sure it will get long. I will try to keep it short & add later if I think of something & answer questions if they are asked. Also I've been keeping up with each of your threads as well, so I'm still in the loop.

I've been DBing by hind end off! GALing, keeping an incredible PMA, no mind reading, and most importantly I've given space & time.

I found out 2 weeks ago at 16 weeks 5 days that I am having a boy & a girl! I'm so excited! I am now pushing 19 weeks & definitely feeling it. I've discovered that a twin pregnancy is so different than a single one. This just happened over the last week. I popped overnight & get questions daily on when I'm due. I love the look on their face when I tell them late December. They can't believe it until I tell them it's twins.

Now, on to my sitch with the H...
He came to me on 6/20 & told me that he was breaking off his relationship with OW. We have been taking things one day at a time & things are moving quite smoothly as of now. He has been very apologetic but still very quiet in regards to some areas of his life. Our communication is pretty good. I'm still very careful as to how I come across or approach certain things regarding my feelings & reservations regarding our sitch.

I'm still going to IC weekly & H is warming up to the idea. I know that one of our major disconnects is our LLs. My question is this-Is it okay to ask him to read the 5LL with me? I've read it, but think it would open his eyes to a lot of our problems & feelings.

I've kept to myself for a while now in regards to the change in my sitch, only telling my IC for fear of "jinxing" anything & feel it's right to put it out there now.

I hope everyone is having a wonderful Monday!