Also, H is going to fly to a different state in a couple of months for a few days to visit his best friend and he had originally asked me if I wanted to join but I decided to stay behind with S because of the ridiculous airline ticket prices. He apparently did want me to go because he looked up prices out of a different city which were a lot more reasonable so now we are both going. I guess that is some kind of good sign, because he easily had the chance to go without me but went a little out of his way so I could join.
If you can go on the trip, I say go, especially now that you know he does want you there. Go and make it an amazing & fun trip. My H would ask me to go places and do things, I would say no, because I felt it was too much money, or because it wasn't something I liked to do, or because I just thought he was simply asking and it was no big deal. I now know I was foolish to say no, he was trying to spend quality time with me, and I did not realize it. It hurt him when I would say no, he felt alone, I didn't realize it. He didn't tell me how my not going on trips and various events bothered him until it was too late.
All we have is today, so take advantage of it, don't wait for your vacation in a few months to come.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
