Bklyn

[2thepoint]

The tools I learned here keep me from not freaking out and stay cool. My wallet is still missing but I am stilling on a well air conditioned train on my way back to my angels. Thanks for all the love

Hi BK! It sounds like your coping mechanisms are working well for you. You just need to stop and THINK. And you did, and look what happened!

((()))

[Underdog]

Well, BMom,

You certainly did a much better job keeping your head and sense of humor than I would have... great job! What a complete mess of a day!

Keep your focus - I'd say you have a lot going for you based on your reaction to the events of this day.

Betsey

[BklynMom]

Thank Advina - i have been reading Kirks free stuff on his web site and thinking of buying something. This new web site I have found scariest mom.com has really been helping too - just knowing I am not the only one dealing with insane kids helps me A LOT.

2tp thanks for reading. Ive missed seeing you around.

Underdog, boy I try to keep it together - its much easier to do when I dont have two kids clinging to me. Thanks for stopping by

[Underdog]

BMom,

LOL. You have 2 toddlers! The nature of that beast is that they are crazy, so they are going to drive you crazy too!

I know it's hard. I can't imagine having 2 very small children and doing what you do. Get some sleep. That usually helps any situation... Sleep is so underrated when you have small kids. I've told people that I think some of the decisions my XH and I made that negatively affected our marriage were made from sleep deprivation...

Hugs,

Betsey

[BklynMom]

Underdog You are so right about the need for sleep. Getting sleep is like taking medicine. It is a big part of taking care of myself.

Okay so I came back from vacation a day early so H could have 1 night this weekend with the girls (even though its not his weekend). I want the girls to see him even though he gave up a recent weekend for a vacation with his GF. They miss him.

Anyway H & I had the usual 10-15 minute businesslike non exciting exchange and then when he is almost out the door with the girls he asks, have the girls accidently brought home a gold necklace recently?

Seriously, he is asking if we have his GF necklace? Also the girls have not been to his house since mid June? Someone please explain

[BklynMom]

Actually I think I figured out why he asked me about the necklace. We had recently been exchanging emails regarding mediators and I said I didnt think the mediator he suggested would work because my father knows him. H didnt like that answer but instead of saying that he asked me about his GF necklace to remind me he had a girlfriend.

So passive aggressive.

Also Sunday when the girls returned home. I had texted H at 4 and asked if the girls could return at 8 instead of 7 so I could go to an Alanon meeting. H never replied. When he dropped them off at 7, he said that he had missed the text earlier and only saw it when he was on his way over. I dont believe that for a second.

He didnt want to keep the kids till 8 on a Sunday night, he wanted a few hrs either alone or with GF to get ready for the work week but he couldnt even admitt that to himself so he says and believes he never saw the text.

Whats so strange is that I always thought of my H as the most honest guy that he never lied. The truth is his smallest lies cover up his darkest truths about himself.

H has convinced himself that he can win the father of the year award at the same time he leaves his family and only contributes minimal time with the girls - cause inside he loves them lots.

Just wondering want to be on these boards think about Anthony Weiner Aka Carlos Danger (are there any threads out there talking about it)

[Mtnman]

Sorry your h is being a jerk, Bklyn. He's only kidding himself.

The public will usually forgive you for one mistake, but don't let it happen again. Only way for Weiner to win is by outspending everyone. By a lot. Man, I love politics!

[BklynMom]

I dont see how its possible for him to recover.

I guess I am just enthralled by his wife standing by him again. I don't really get her but I also think I am her.

All account about Huma are that she is an amazing, beautiful and smart woman. The rumors are that she had many suitors during her time in Washington.

I get why she did it the first time - after all its strange and gross but its not like he was doing anything physical with these woman. But for her to stand by him the second time I feel like I am watching her be abused.

I also dont see myself being abused by STBX currently but in some ways i feel like a can relate to her

[Mtnman]

She looks like she would have plenty of options. Love will cause you to do things others can't imagine doing. The people on this board are all good examples.

I can definitely relate to her. She loves him, is likely terrified of a life for her and their child without the parents together, and probably rationalizes why he's doing it.

I'm already trying to figure out who will run against my sitting governor in 2016. Cannot wait to see how it all goes down. Thanks for getting my mind on politics, Bklyn!

[BklynMom]

I have been meaning to post all day about how recovered and detached I am.

How I sat through a meeting with a mediator and STBX today and was calm and all around awesome.

But just now on the walk home...

My girls and I were talking about next weekend when they are going on a trip with Daddy to the beach and they are going to see their grandparents and their cousins and D4 says Jess (OW) is coming too.

I was totally calm but saying the dumbest things.

Do you like Jess? Why do you like her? Mommy doesn't like her.

D3 starts crying why dont you like Jess she is nice to me.

I went on about how Jess is not a person, how she is the reason that daddy doesnt live with us anymore.

I said several times I dont like her she is mean.

I snapped out of it and then said I didnt mean it and I changed the conversation.

What am I supposed to say when they mention this hooker- b!tch? I Hate her