Labug, Your right. I avoided conflict and just tried to make everything ok and pushed aside when I was mad about something. Something I realized I did in reaction to how I saw my parents fight. Dad would say something and mom would take offense and not talk to him for up to a week. I just realized that a few weeks ago when I saw them do it again. So I'm def an appeaser due to the a ousting conflict and even my W years ago said she wants to fight things out and then move on. I bottled things up. As far as working on myself I'm going to IC, made a huge change in my body in the gym, reading books on raising boys seeing that I have 3, and connecting to God more. So I feel I'm doing the right things for myself and have to understand that my wife is on her on journey now and I can only fix myself not her. Hard to do sometimes. I have not read that book but will look into it. Thanks!
M:33 W:32 Married:8 Together:10 S:5,4 and 8 months BD: 4/1/13 W move out day: 5/4/13 ILYBNINWY,WAS. No talk of wanting to save relationship