GM, I'm very sorry about what happened this weekend. I had hoped he would have settled down just a bit, but it appears that he went back and possibly discussed his situation w/someone and they pointed out that he may not be able to live on his own w/o someone helping w/the bills, etc.
You can't explain any of your situation to a troubled, addicted person who is still blaming others for their problems. They have to figure it out on their own and hit bottom. You could sit and explain it to your xh until you are blue in the face, but he will never look at the mirror and see what is before him and why things are the way they are. The only thing you can do is protect yourself and your boys at all costs.
As for the boys' therapist calling and talking to him...he'll listen, but it will go in one ear and out of the other because he's not ready to listen or do the hard work.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
