Sorry, I wasn't clear. I mean the things about her mood and getting an IC.

I would be waiting to see if she does those things. That would show a certain level of commitment to change. But maybe it's better to ask you what you would see as her willingness to work on the M?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss