Run and hide your crazy

[mizjjd]

Hi guys. A subdued and thoughtful MizJ reporting today.

NLT

Maybe that's a business idea? Seems I did hear about some sort of nasty greeting cards a while back. But I wasn't looking for nasty. Well, I might have picked up nasty and read it with an evil smile, but then I'd have put it back. I was looking for, idk,
Happy Birthday despite yourself... lol

Did you tell your MIL that you weren't your h's mother and that if he doesn't have enough sense to take care of himself that he will pay the consequences?
The MIL, ah the MIL. The MIL is partly deaf and mostly not interested in what other's have to say. Or so it seems. When she asks questions there is no pause for the other person to respond. So in this instance my response was something of a squeak as a jumble of things fought for expression. But I'm sure she didn't hear that. And I'm sure she didn't hear me banging my forehead (gently) into the wall during the convo.

AJM

Got a pointer the recipe? That sounds ridiculously good.


The recipe was in the August Family Circle Magazine. If its not available on their site let me know and I'll post it.

The cake turned out ok - that's even the rating H gave it. He also said it was a little dry, which it was. It called for 3 mashed bananas. I didn't have any bananas so used 3 jars of baby banana food. Maybe I should have used 4?

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Ok. Serious question now. I have pointed out that many of H's behaviors have been present for years. Wow, I can't believe I'm thinking/asking this. Guys, how do you know if someone is crazy? Obviously I don't mean the crazy you see in movies, but I presume there is a spectrum, and how do you know if a person has a couple of notches along that ruler?

H spent about 40 minutes last night explaining how he is a super human. His belief stems from having been in accidents where he "should have died" but came out relatively unscathed. He thinks he has some sort of genetically altered super skin that becomes like armor when the adrenaline is high.

And this is not the first time he has said this kind of thing. As part of DBing, I have been trying to "actively listen" to H. So, I've "heard" this stuff before, but I'm not sure I'd ever really listened. Before I passed this off as just H babbling. But I believe he believes this.

And, did you know that all men only make eye contact and smile at women who they find attractive? Doesn't mean they would act on that attraction, but if they don't find a woman do-able they don't bother to make eye contact. The eye contact and smile combination means the woman is prey.

Oh, and H has a new "system" for black jack. Not really earth shattering news there, because he has a new system about twice a month. (Well, I thought so, but when I mentioned this I was told NO.) And this system seems possibly loonier to me than the last systems. Honestly folks, I'm waiting for H to come home and say "I've noticed a pattern that when the person next to me wears red, and the person two chairs down wears purple, such and such happens." Because H firmly believes he sees patterns where nobody else does. Which leads me back to the crazy question.

And if he is crazy, what is my moral, ethical obligation here? Please, I'm not asking about this from a co-dependent perspective. I'm saying if H really is across some sort of line, what am I supposed to do? What is the right thing?

And, if he has crossed that line, well whatever hopes I may have had about him progressing through a crisis period... well I guess they're gone. Not that he couldn't be both (I'm sure crazy isn't pc) crazy and MLC. So maybe one day the MLC might diminish - but what about the crazy?

The upside of this idea is that it truly becomes "not about me".
(Well, H would probably say I was the one who made him crazy, but that's just crazy talk )

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Ok. Funny story. My poor S20. The slightly socially awkward, lonely critter that lives down the hall with his 2 cats and a rat. He was in a wedding Saturday. Came home with a girls phone number!! (Because she gave it to him.) S20 is a bit on cloud 9. Tells me that he's a little worried though because she has a "reputation". For what I asked? Drugs? Crazy? Sex? Turns out the rep was "sex". I looked at him for a minute. "Is that a problem for you?" He says he thinks it should be a problem for him. (Oh that boy SMH) Well I said, the reputation could be wrong, or it could be that she's changed. I pointed out that S20 has a reputation for being a stoner but he hasn't smoked for about 2 years. I advised him to get to know the girl so he could make his own decision. And he did. More cloud 9. And a date is scheduled for today - this was last night. After his proud announcement of the date and receiving his congrats, I asked S20, so, how old is she? Gasp! S20 doesn't know!! He runs off to the phone.

A few minutes later he pops his head in the bedroom door.

"Never mind. She's 15."

S20 = Ziggy Sigh, poor kid.

Cheers