Afterwards W was very withdrawn. Went out the door with her new jogging shoes without a word.
Could be lots of things. But it could also be that W is afraid she is wrong about you!
I understand the fear about the Vegas trip. I was terrified about the New Orleans trip my H took and we got through it. The drinking boys asked H to go to Tahiti next! He said "no, guys, I can't do that!" Whew! So they may have settled on Las Vegas.
It sounds like you are doing so well validating with things you don't agree or understand. Obviously your W depends on you as an important friend and confidant in her life.
Regarding the will she be able to trust you ever again? There were some issues with me personally that my H went over the line with long before MLC and I was very angry about it. After some reading and heart-searching, IC, etc., I understand so much more and am able to forgive and accept.
It just takes some work and W is working on herself first. She just has to accept that she is a beautiful person before she can accept that you think that too!
You're doing a great job in a tough and loveless sitch! rH
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
