Don't understand, why now???? Plus what do I do??

[ct man 1969]

Well I finished the book in June. I don't know if the LRT will work given that there isn't much more time left, but I'm still trying.

My 180's are trying to spend more time w/ my daughters, doing more things around the house and trying to be pleasant with my wife as much as possible. The ability to bridal my tongue would go a long way with my wife if I had that ability 100% of the time. I still mess up with that.

GAL's are a little more difficult and maybe some of you could give me some pointers. My wife has really neglected the entire family, not just me. I've tried to point this out, and she's getting better, but she's not around much of the time. She blames me and that she just want to be around me. The problem to that argument is that if she didn't want to be around me, she could still take the girls with her. I think she just wants to party.

I go to a friends house for a bible study every Tuesday night and I go to an addiction meeting every Friday night. For the most part, my wife stays home those two days so that I can go to these, but there are times when she just doesn't come home after work and I can't go to these functions because I can't leave the girls home alone. I also go to the gym at least 5 times a week in the AM before anyone in the house is even out of bed.

Other than these things I really don't have a chance to GAL, because I need to tend to my daughters. Cook dinner and do things with them because their mom is out partying or just spending time anywhere but home. If there are things that I'd like to do, like go fishing, will it still be considered part of GAL if I include my daughters (if they'd even would like to go fishing, just an example in this case)?

Any suggestions and/or comments would be appreciated. Thanks and God bless.