You stated a boundary and placed a consequence on it. Even DB'ers are allowed to have deal breakers... we're not required to put up with anything and everything our spouse throws at us.
Better to let her know now, early on, how you feel about this. Not because you think it will change her behavior and make her fall in love with you, (it won't) but because you want to protect yourself from more pain.
Make it all about respect for the marriage, not about the pain she is causing you. You're GAL, PMA and happy, remember? The H she will miss if she bolts.
Personally, I don't understand how spouses can put up with an A. But having not been in that position yet, maybe I would too if it came down to it. IDK.
Originally Posted By: SailingAlone
...but for her not 'changing something' is even more terrible.
This feeling is what's driving my W... and probably all the other MLC'ers too. It seems to me most will have to see it through, and figure it out for themselves, or forever hold regrets.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
