Dropping the Rope

[littleGTO]

Thanks for your advice tori, breakdown, ruby & lost_hope,

I have not retained a lawyer as of yet. I just went to 3 separate free consultations- w 3 diff lawyers. I think I am going to going to one more free consultation to get another take on child custody.

I'm hoping the fact that he's barely taken them for the past 8+ months will be helpful in getting full physical custody.

But, I don't think it is good for them to go a whole week M-F and not see their dad either. He said he would still help w driving them to their activities but is not willing to come to the house after school to see them every day (like we did the past year). He doesn't see this as a long term solution.

ruby, when you said you have full custody but your H can see the kids anytime he wants, did you just agree to this? And, if you were to D how would that look in writing???

I don't want to give him equity in the house right now...I want to delay splitting for several years. I can save money to pay more money down later when we split and save paying interest (again).

lost- why would H have to pay for part of the mortgage after D on top of child support?

And what does child support include and not include!

Boy, I have a lot of unanswered questions.