Guys, my separation diet hasn't been great for me. I have gone from a slightly large 204 pounds down to 158 pounds. I am eating healthy and regular, but also running each day anywhere from 5 to 13kms. Actually going to join a gym this weekend as I have lost too much muscle and no clothes fit anymore. Well done to you both for the loss of weight.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
You need to strength train and eat enough. Let me know if you'd like help setting up a basic diet and exercise program.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
Diet breaks always jump start my metabolism as does doing a totally different exercise. Say, if I have been logging a lot of KMs, I will go to Zumba or Boot Camp or do stairs instead.
H has also lost a lot of weight...70 pound range... (B@st@rd...lmao! But he looks great. I know he is having same issues as you in terms of weight loss, but is beginning to show more muscle now)
I think we will stay at the house tonight. We may be there to eat and then go to the festival depending on the condition D3 is in when I pick her up from daycare.
I am such a moron that my first reaction was " Is she inviting me to go with them since she told me where they were going?????"
Stop mind reading PS
Like lefty, because I have been focusing on me and not snooping I have zero clue whats going on in her life. So when a nugget like this falls I think its a sign.
Then, like lefty, I think that if I dont reply to clarify I am being "distant"- which is one of the excuses she gave me for leaving me. I would be acting like "more of the same".
What Im learning about myself the more/longer that im alone with myself is that I lost who I was because I always wanted her to be happy. I could never say no to her. I stopped inserting "ME" in "US". If she originally fell in love with me- I was no longer that person.
So this does all boil down to respect. She stopped respecting me because all I was doing was what she wanted. In turn I was becoming more and more depressed.
So now im anxious about whether to respond or not and how if I do.
So I wont respond. Instead I will act as if I never got the email. I have a weekend with D3- That is ALWAYS awesome!
Thanks for reading folks.....appreciate you VERY much:)
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
I have this overflowing cauldron of emotions every moment im in W presence. Its so much emotion i become very quiet and soft spoken. I become a wimp.......
The best face I can put on is "Even keel".
Wake up on Sat for breakfast together which made D3 soooooooooo happy- she is still confused.
Then she had no plans for D3 on Sat day- she just hung around the house downloading music in her frumpy clothes. I finally got her to leave and PRESTO into a cute summer dress she goes and she whisks away.
Sat night was pizza and movie picnic night in the living room- This weeks showing Pinocchio. My W would have a tree-like nose
Sunday was AWESOME! D3 and I up at 5:30, breakfast, 16 mile bikeride, stop at the bakery then another 10 miles to a playground, then another 2 miles through a large cemetery (D3 finds them interesting), Then to a neighborhood ballpark to play make believe baseball and run the bases........Then a picnic along the river where I teach her how to play catch - using a volleyball.
Finish with dinner at Nana and grandpas houses and a great day is wrapped up.
I got sun, a GREAT workout, and had a blast with D3.
Two nights with no W interaction. THANK GOODNESS!
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Wow! Sounds like a really nice bike ride and day with your D! Good job, PS!
"Even keel" is good. I know it DB says to keep a PMA, but it also says to "act as-if." So as long as you didn't fall to pieces, I think you're doing okay.
She leaves my house to go to OM's house - "even keel" is PMA
she changed her wardrobe like Cinder-flippin-rella.
D3 was sooo happy to have us all together at the bfast table on Sat.
I KNOW 10,000% that i wasnt miserable enough to deserve this.
someone AMAZING will come along and make me forget loving her !!!!!!!
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
