Hi Mooka,

You sure have improved alot..

Lets see if we can't fine tune a few things..
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HE said "I don't want to do anything I'll regret in the morning.."

The next time he says that TO HIS WIFE, if I were you it would take me all of five seconds to simply say in a perfectly content tone.."you know what, you're right..as a matter of fact, I've been thinking the same thing, I don't want to do anything I might regret either.." then put your pj's on, give him a peck on the cheek and say.."g'night dear.." that way, you have taken a subtle stand for yourself and sent him a message he can think about while he's laying there..
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My gander gets up each time he is vague with his whereabouts. My C gave me personal strategies to deal with that.

Here's my personal strategy, and it won't cost ya a dime.. : START BEING MORE VAGUE WITH YOUR WHEREABOUTS..

I'd let him bring up the insurance stuff, you planted a seed, he knows it will require attention, my guess is he will take the initiative, so I'd let it go. All the while you of course are:

Acting HAPPY and more CONFIDENT each day,

You're HAPPY just with the way things are.

NO PRESSURE, NO PURSUING behaviour

KEEP finding things to do on your OWN, act like you're really looking forward to your tennis gig on friday night..

When he asks where you are and when you're coming home, don't be too committal with the info..You'll get home when you get home, unless of course you agreed on something that would necessitate you altering YOUR schedule..

You're doing good Mooka, its just that when you see his actions starting to "get your gander up" don't let it get to you too much, just happily carry yourself in the SAME MANNER as he is, there's nothing wrong with that it as it will help neutralize the sitch and keep you from getting all crazy..

Gotta love that Starbucks aye??