HI wbw, I haven't read your sitch but yes, this back and forth is driving me crazy. My h took the kids out of town this weekend and there was NO communication. I am trying to give him the space he needs.

He was quick to point out the other day when he came over that he is spending time with OW but not what I think. Just what does that mean? Anytime with OW is unacceptable and especially when you have told the kids that you broke it off with her.

I am treading water very carefully with him and hold back a lot of what I would "like" to say. He has not mentioned d in a long time now. Like I said in my previous post, I'm curious what the c has to say when I go on Tuesday. I think she may have a feeling of where he is; meaning if he is as done as he said or if he is still really confused.

I guess I thought when the a is revealed they would start moving away from OW and while that looked like what was happening, he has gone back. I don't know how hot and heavy it is and how much time he is spending with her.

Do you know how long the a has been going on in your case? So it sounds like your h moved back out? My h is still gone and has been now for about 16 months.

I will try and find your thread and get caught up. I don't have a ton of time to get on because I don't like to be on when my kids are around or at work. It helps just reading sometimes.

M 48 H 50
M 25 T 27
D 20,18,15
6/11 H filed
3/12 H dropped
4/12 H moved out