I could use some suggestions for the next few days/weeks...

H came home from a buisness trip Sat just before dinner. We did take-out, watched a movie on TV and snuggled naked. HE said I don't want to do anything I'll regret in the morning..so we didn't get too sexual, but it was very nice.

Sun I went to church, he goes off to "kick around"...I always get suspicious, cuz he could be phoning OW or meeting her for coffee....but he has said that he is NOT in a personal relationship (on 4 occaisions, when I've pressed him in the past...which I stopped doing!) My gander gets up, tho each time he is vague with his whereabouts. My C gave me personal strategies to deal that...so I don't project my insecruities. So, after church I shopped a bit, went to Starbucks...delayed coming home. He calls my cell and asks when am I coming home and if I plan to eat lunch with him. So I casually say...oh I'll be home in about 15 minutes...for lunch. We had also planned to watch the Superbowl together, even tho he was invited to work group Superbowl party...he opted to stay home with me. I felt good about that decision on his part. Anyway...the evening went well, got along fine...no touching...but we ate, drank, and laughed together. I felt good about the 2 nights.

HOWEVER, this morning before he left for work....we were getting along fine, our am routine coffee/exercise....then I decided to tell him about our financial issues re: our car that got rear-ended last Dec....and he became unglued. His temper (which I hadn't seen in several months) got the best of him and he was majorly pissed at me to bring up the crap going on with the insurance co. just before he leaves for the office. Yes, my timeing SUCKED...I totally forgot to mention it over the week-end....he thought my communication timing was terrible. So, instead of totally defending myself (which I used to do, always) I listened quietly, said "I "F#@#@d" up" and left it alone. He steamed all the way to the train station. He then calmed a bit, and said gather all the info and we'll go over it tonight. He got out of the car abruptly, didn't say good-bye and said he didn't know when he'd be home tonight. Yes my timing sucked. I know to keep things light before work...he's under a ton of pressure at work, and has been for 6+ months. He contributes his work pressures to part of his "funk" with life in general. I know he was thinking about me....and here she goes again....making my blood boil at the wrong times. He always thought I was poor at my communications with him.....In fact, that's what I've been working on improving. I think I've improved alot...but slipped this morning.

So now I'm thinking, what would he least expect me to do? I'm wondering what to do tonight when he gets home. I don't want to act too apologetic....he would expect that. I have to think about this today, and figure out something to keep him off balance.

Anyone have any creative ideas? Sorry this is so detailed.

Mooka