Months huh? Well, the problem with that is she is only 9 weeks from being eligible to file for a D if this is what she intends on doing. I dont really know for certain if she plans to as she has never said the word D yet. Yet, all her motions so far has been moving in that direction. There has been some mention on these boards of not letting it go so long without contact in certain cases. But again, it's hard to make the right call. As you said, it is difficult for you not to contact your H. If I'm not mistaken your fairly confident he wont be filing anytime soon correct? I mean Trying, I dont plan on making contact anytime soon. but for now I guess I just have to be hushhhhhhh.....
He's mentioned he wants a D, but I've not heard anything from his solicitor so I don't know if he's filed yet. Even if she files for D, there's still hope. If it does happen, get yourself a good lawyer that will work for you and may be able to stop the D from happening! Some knowledgeable person told me last week that I should ask my solicitor for a mentor. He/she will be like an in between person who liaises between you and your spouse and gets down to the root of the problem of your M. Now I'm actually looking forward to hearing from his solicitor especially now that I know this bit of information. If you get a good mentor, then they will work to R you both and decide whether D is the best option. There has been some mention on these boards of not letting it go so long without contact in certain cases But you have initiated contact. You've answered two of her emails. Remember it's still early days and she may not be ready to talk to you on the phone. The phone number was just in case, remember that! Don't worry too much about whether she's going to initiate D or not. Just take one day at a time and see how things progress. She may even get to a stage in a few weeks where she's closer to you but not close enough for a R but close enough to not want a D. You don't know what the future is going to bring, so worrying about it is not going to help your health! Easier said than done I know. You wouldn't believe how many weeks I've spent stressing about hearing from his lawyer, but now I've got this added bit of information I'm not worried anymore
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
