Originally Posted By: 2old
Hi Trying180, I missed your first post today above about the talking to much with friends. I understand...Yes, W has my number and yes I think you are right that she was reaching out somewhat. And yes, my W is probably somewhat confused. She has a little bit of a history of being undecided and even a rapid change of mind from one position to another. Something I now can recall fairly well. And no, I am aware that I should wait and see if she initiates amymore herself. I'm wondering though if it were to go several weeks do I keep quiet still. Oh well, I guess only time will tell....


Weeks? let's talk months! remember baby steps. Unfortunately that's how long it's going to take, so you've got to be patient frown If I can be patient then anyone can. I'm the most impatient person I know! lol. This is a challenge for me to be patient.
Have you read DR or DB? If not I urge you to get hold of a copy of DR. It tells you all you need to know in there. I'm finding the goal setting hard as I keep changing them, but I hope to get there soon, lol.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but it will take longer than a few weeks. The only time you can stop playing it cool is when she said let's give this M another try and even then carry on with the babysteps forward, don't try and be full on! Carry on making improvements to yourself, your home and surroundings. Be the best that you can be! Try doing a vision board to keep focused and positive. It's been a great help to me and gives me something to do in the evening (apart from coming on here of course, lol).

H47 me48
T22 M21
S20 - Got high functioning autism
3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her
11/2000 H moves back home
2/4/13 H moves out
H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!