My Story - Need Help... Is there hope?

[truelovewaits]

My first reaction was yes. I was angry and I reacted poorly to learning of the EA (now a PA.) I've been told it is too late that there is too much water under the bridge by her parents.

I wish it wasn't. I believe we could get through this. I don't like the idea and I'm hurt from what has happened, but I also believe in marriage and would give it another chance. That said I feel waiting around makes me a doormat and I don't want to be that.

My question is what can I do? Can I attempt to make this work? How can I contact her if we don't talk? How should I without her feeling that I am weak or giving in?

I really don't know if there is anything I can or should do. Part of me feels it would be good to email her, but another part only feels that would make things worse. I just don't know how to proceed and would love the advice of the community.

In the end I realize that I do care for her, I don't like what she has done now and who she is at this moment. I know it all sounds very conflicted because it is. The more I look at it I see she would have to make the first move to show any interest.

However, she is very stubborn as are her parents. They are the type that never really apologize for anything and like to avoid mistakes or problems. Also, I know she views me as a brother and believes we couldn't get past the arguing or the issues with the other guy. I don't know as we never really tried. I believe we could.

Then again who knows anything, there have been so many lies I don't know what is real anymore.

Help me community. Thank you so much for the reply by the way DigDeeper. I really appreciate it.

Thank you everyone else (anotherstander) who has read this thread and to those that have offered advice. Again, I really appreciate it.