"]Your right, your right. I was told but for some reason I was blind to it. I'm OK with only communicating about the kids, I don't like ignoring anyones messages to me though. It just feels so rude and passive aggressive."
It feels so rude, huh? That's nothing but an excuse. And. even Michele teaches the LBS not to answer every contact. Do you think she's teaching her readers to be passive aggressive?
"How should I respond regarding the kids? She messaged me late afternoon on Saturday to ask how the kids are. i said they were fine and sent her a pic of the kids, she asked a question about them. I answered it with a tiny story about something the kids did. Is that too much?"
Yes, too much! When she asks how they are, just answer with "fine", and leave it at that. If she asks questions about them, give short answers. Why are you taking pictures to send her? Why are you engaging in chit-chat?
"I don't understand how this could go from her being pi55ed at my lack of response or interest to going to see a therapist.
Are we talking about the same thing? I thought this woman was giving you threats of D. I thought she got pissed b/c you she found out that you had been off work the entire week, and she thought you should have kept the boys all that time. She was mad when she found out they spent part of that time at your mom's. She started calling you names and then it led to her saying she was getting a lawyer. Did I missed something?
When you say "and tell her if she is serious about it" serious about what? If she asks for R?"
It blows my mind how you misunderstand what I tried point out. Especially since telling you to expect this sort of thing and not respond. But you did the right thing by letting me know you didn't get it.
However, I am the one confused now. I thought you were wanting a plan in how to deal with her. I thought you were fed up with her games, and you wanted to know how to turn things around. I was trying to help you know how to deal with some of those areas.
If she were to see that her old ways no longer got the reaction she expected, she would try something different......or she would get serious enough about wanting her H and M that she would earnestly seek to become a better person. She would lay these immature games down, once she saw they no longer worked. And if she were to seriously want her family together again, you may even have the opportunity to hear her ask you what it would take for the M to work.
Your not the first person to get annoyed at what I do and don't get.
I have always had a hard time getting what other people mean when they instruct me. I think it's because I'm very slightly autistic. When I do martial arts and get taught something, the instructor will explain it and everyone gets it but me. My brother just adds a few pieces here and there and I totally get it.
Right now she is either playing another game or she is realizing that some of her games aren't working. Even though I haven't done everything you said by either failing or misunderstanding some of it has stuck and I have been different towards her.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
