Wow. This has become quite a learning experience. W emailed me that she thinks I don't think that her and OM really have that much in common because I'm a college educated snob and he has a blue collar job with the state.
Here's the interesting thing. This is total redirection. One of our issues over the years has been her attitude that she's superior to others because of her education. I've always adhered to the notion that I feel like a blue collar guy trapped in a white collar world. I enjoyed college, and it's allowed me to make good money in the tech industry (but not avoid huge debt, LOL). She actually said "his job can't be outsourced to Indians" - like I tout that as a plus for my job? This might indicate how much my worry over that possibility caused a lot of stress in our relationship though. The work from home thing was very stressful during the long periods when she was unemployed and also at home, and I shared too many of my frustrations. I told her I have great respect for people who work with there hands or work there way up in a career. And she knows all this, anyway.
Anyway, I think she's clearly trying to convince herself here, not me. It's bizarre that she can apply that snob label to me.
And one last thing I told her... I never doubted that OM is a good guy. And I said that's all I'll say about that. Because, honestly, I have no reason to believe he isn't a nice guy. Doesn't make me feel better. But I just don't see them having much in common still. Clearly that was a hot-button issue.
