I think you have the right idea, wait until your marriage is back on solid ground to have another child. Continue to make wise decisions regardless of your H's attitude.

One of my friends just announced she's getting a divorce... and that she's had a "sham of a marriage for a while"... but they had a daughter the first year and then a couple years pregnant again, with twins... now she's taking care of those 3 babies on her own. frown

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope